A Different Kind of Transition
A compassionate, private guide for SOF spouses navigating the unseen, complicated moments of personal transition.
Transition can be complicated for any military family, but for Special Operations Forces (SOF) spouses, it often carries layers that few people truly understand. This guide was created to offer the clarity, structure, and behind-the-scenes insight that so many SOF spouses wish they had when facing major relationship crossroads.
Rather than offering generic advice, this workbook speaks directly to the realities of SOF life—long separations, the emotional load of service, uneven communication cycles, and the way benefits, timelines, and career transitions can influence your future. Inside, you’ll find practical checklists, reflection prompts, and decision-mapping tools designed to help you organize your thoughts, understand your options, and determine the best path forward for your life.
Whether you’re simply reevaluating, quietly considering separation, or trying to understand how timing affects long-term stability, this guide helps you approach your next steps with confidence, privacy, and a grounded sense of self.
What To Expect
This workbook is a structured guide designed specifically to support SOF spouses before the phases of separation and after divorce.
At Lotus River Wellness, we uphold the highest standards of integrity, privacy, and professionalism.
Just as we ensure a safe and supportive environment through our wellness offerings,
we are equally committed to protecting your privacy and honoring the
trust we’ve built within the SOF community.
This workbook is both a resource and a reflection of our
dedication to empowering you during this transformative time.
Here’s what you can expect:
Testimonials
A Last Ditch Effort
"I downloaded the divorce guide as a last-ditch effort, convinced my marriage was over. But it wasn’t until I completed the guide and joined Lotus River Wellness that I realized what we truly needed tools to heal, not just individually but as a family. Today, our marriage is stronger than ever, and I finally feel seen and supported."
— Megan R., SOF Spouse
We Thought We Were Done...
"I thought I was done, but working through the guide showed me how much hurt we were both carrying. The LRW program gave us the tools to heal the wounds of SOF life together. It didn’t just save my marriage; it saved my family."
— Sarah P., SOF Spouse
Coparenting with Respect
"The divorce guide gave me clarity I didn’t know I needed. For years, I ignored how lost I felt, but the process helped me see that letting go was the healthiest choice for us both. I’m now building a life I love, and my ex and I are co-parenting with respect and peace. It was the best decision I ever made."
— Rachel K., Former SOF Spouse
A Life of Balance and Happiness
"I was hesitant to face the reality of my marriage, but the divorce guide helped me find my strength. I realized I’d spent years pouring from an empty cup. With Lotus River’s resources, I’ve created a life of balance and happiness—for me and my kids."
— Jessica H., Former SOF Spouse
Ready to Give Up
"I was ready to give up. The divorce guide opened my eyes to patterns we couldn’t see on our own. After finishing it, I enrolled in the wellness program, and for the first time in years, we communicated without blame. I rediscovered myself and my husband in the process. Our love story is back on track."
— Emily T., SOF Spouse
Staying Was My Only Option
"I thought staying was my only option, but the guide helped me. It’s been a journey, but I’ve never felt stronger or more at peace. I’m grateful for the clarity and support this program provided during such a difficult time."
— Amanda L., Former SOF Spouse
