A Different Kind of Goodbye
Divorce is challenging in any circumstance, but for Special Operations Forces (SOF) spouses, the journey is uniquely complex. This workbook has been created to offer the support, insight, and guidance that many SOF spouses find lacking when navigating the difficult path of divorce. While most divorce resources are generic and fail to account for the distinct needs and experiences of those in the military community, this workbook specifically addresses the complexities of SOF divorces—ranging from prolonged deployments, the emotional toll of family separation, and the unique struggles that come with transitioning out of active duty.
The focus of this workbook is not only on the legal process of divorce but also on the deep emotional and practical considerations that come with being married to someone who has spent their career in a high-stress, high-risk military environment. Our goal is to help you regain your sense of autonomy, clarity, and empowerment, no matter where you are in the divorce process—whether you are contemplating divorce, currently separated, or already navigating post-divorce life. This workbook combines personal experiences, professional insight, and real-world advice to ensure that you have the tools you need to make informed decisions and successfully rebuild your life.
What To Expect
This workbook is a structured guide designed specifically to support SOF spouses through the phases of divorce.
At Lotus River Wellness, we uphold the highest standards of integrity, privacy, and professionalism.
Just as we ensure a safe and supportive environment through our wellness offerings,
we are equally committed to protecting your privacy and honoring the
trust we’ve built within the SOF community.
This workbook is both a resource and a reflection of our
dedication to empowering you during this transformative time.
Here’s what you can expect:
Testimonials
A Last Ditch Effort
"I downloaded the divorce guide as a last-ditch effort, convinced my marriage was over. But it wasn’t until I completed the guide and joined Lotus River Wellness that I realized what we truly needed tools to heal, not just individually but as a family. Today, our marriage is stronger than ever, and I finally feel seen and supported."
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— Megan R., SOF Spouse
We Thought We Were Done...
"I thought I was done, but working through the guide showed me how much hurt we were both carrying. The LRW program gave us the tools to heal the wounds of SOF life together. It didn’t just save my marriage; it saved my family."
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— Sarah P., SOF Spouse
Coparenting with Respect
"The divorce guide gave me clarity I didn’t know I needed. For years, I ignored how lost I felt, but the process helped me see that letting go was the healthiest choice for us both. I’m now building a life I love, and my ex and I are co-parenting with respect and peace. It was the best decision I ever made."
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— Rachel K., Former SOF Spouse
A Life of Balance and Happiness
"I was hesitant to face the reality of my marriage, but the divorce guide helped me find my strength. I realized I’d spent years pouring from an empty cup. With Lotus River’s resources, I’ve created a life of balance and happiness—for me and my kids."
— Jessica H., Former SOF Spouse
Ready to Give Up
"I was ready to give up. The divorce guide opened my eyes to patterns we couldn’t see on our own. After finishing it, I enrolled in the wellness program, and for the first time in years, we communicated without blame. I rediscovered myself and my husband in the process. Our love story is back on track."
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— Emily T., SOF Spouse
Staying Was My Only Option
"I thought staying was my only option, but the guide helped me. It’s been a journey, but I’ve never felt stronger or more at peace. I’m grateful for the clarity and support this program provided during such a difficult time."
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— Amanda L., Former SOF Spouse
